Thursday, February 11, 2010

What if He Asks You for a Date: Does it mean he likes you?


What if a guy asks you for a date? What’s that suppose to mean? Does it mean a guy likes you? Does it mean he is interested in you? Technically, dating is defined as a form of courtship, an act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity with the aim of assessing each other’s suitability as partner in an intimate relationship (wikipedia). However, this technical definition doesn’t hold true all the time especially nowadays. Hence, a woman faces one of the initial challenges of dating, whenever a guy asks her for date without defining whether it is a friendly date or a romantic date. Some guys ask their girl friends on nights out or dinner without having any romantic interests whatsoever to them. Hence, it is perplexing to gauge a guy’s real interest in you when he simply asks you out absence any other romantic indicators. The guy maybe interested in you but not romantically. The slightest streak of assumption in this aspect is always dangerous. A woman must never assume.

When a guy asks you for a date, stand on the safer ground and do not drown yourself with unfounded assumptions and unlikely expectations.

Do not be mistaken by a man’s courtesy. Some men are really courteous. A man may listen to you when you talk. He makes eye contact showing focus and attentiveness to you whenever the two of you are together. But that doesn’t mean he is interested in you romantically. He may simply be courteous brought about by his good human relation skills. In short, he socializes pretty well.

Do not be mistaken by a man’s curiosity. A man may asks you so many questions like “Are you married?”, “Do you have a boyfriend?”, “What traits do you like in a guy?” or “Have you eaten?”, “Do you like flowers or chocolates?”, etc. Questions like these can set the “he might be interested in me” alarm but he could just be simply curious, no more no less. Do not assume. In worst case scenario, a guy may be asking you these questions because someone else is interested in you and not him.

Do not be mistaken by his sweetness and thoughtfulness. Some men are pleasers of women, without any romantic ties involved. A guy may call you daily or send you morning and evening greetings through texts every single day. But mind you, he might also be doing the same thing to other girls, so be cautious and don’t jump into conclusions.

Do not be mistaken by his stares at you little longer than usual. Take notice of a man’s pupils dilating. If that’s the case, he could be interested in you. Accordingly, a man’s pupils can grow 4 times bigger when he is attracted. But remember, the pupil also dilates to allow light to pass through for better vision.

Do not be mistaken by his flirts. Some men like to flirt in the hope you’d fall for them although there is really no genuine interest. So be careful. Some men just want to see you NAKED ASAP and want to feel your skin pressed against them. Sex may drive men to seek you out. Yes men may think you are sexy and it’s a compliment, but on one hand, with this goal in the minds of men, you may just be some piece of warm meat for them.

Deciphering if a man is interested in you on the basis of a single request for a date is tough. While there may be other hints or signs pointing to the affirmative, but they must be weighed carefully with utmost objectivity.

Some positive sign of real romantic interest:

He talks about you all the time.

He always tries to get near you or around you.

He likes to tease you, call you names or crack jokes, sometimes not funny jokes at all. Men do this to get a woman’s attention.

He asks about you from other people. When a guy starts to asks those people around you of certain information about you he may be seriously interested in you to even take the time and effort to get extra information about you. Also consider his efforts at befriending people you know.

He buys you gifts, flowers, or chocolates.

He introduces you to his friends and family which he has not done to his other girl friends. In short your name is not foreign to his circle of friends and family.

He asks you for date more than once. When a guy likes a woman the first major step to show it is to date her romantically. When a man has positive strong feelings for you, he will make the effort to ask you out on a date even if he fears rejection for the second or third time. It only shows he is aggressive to pursue his intentions towards you.

Do bear in mind that men are easy and sometimes hard to read. But when they can’t find the right words to express their true feelings, they resort to body language. So learn how to read their moves.

But also take note that the common cliché signs that a guy likes you are not always true. Men are complex beings and each and every Romeo, dear Juliet meets may be different. The test to determine a guy’s real intention to you must be taken on a case to case basis in the light of attending circumstances. There is really no hard and fast rule.

Note: This article may not be copied or used in any way without my expression permission.

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6 comments

Anonymous
February 11, 2010 at 6:46 PM delete

is this based on personal experience? hehehe..

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February 11, 2010 at 6:48 PM delete

@anonymous, hahahah! Yes! Yes! You are right!

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dwyne
February 13, 2010 at 4:34 AM delete

you seem like an expert.. you write interesting stuffs here.... well, i ask a girl to a date because am interested of her romantically.

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sgc
February 14, 2010 at 8:35 AM delete

it usually does...but of course this is not without exceptions...there is nothing absolute in this world, I guess...

sgc

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February 15, 2010 at 4:35 AM delete

@sgc, char au ka s_ _y..hhahahah.. basta ikaw gud..:)

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Anonymous
February 10, 2011 at 5:02 AM delete

these days it is impossible to socialise and find a girlfriend, it usually all pretty much falls down to the dollar and how thick your wallet is. it is not the case that there is materialism out there, of course there is, but even if she was not the material type, you would actually need to have a lot of cash to be able to facilitate such social interactions. most guys can not afford it, they may work hard long hours and the job might not be so relevant, but when it comes to bills and other worries or supporting other family members, poor guys can simply never afford a date, nor be able to invest in their appearance to be able to attract anybody at all and then there goes the cost of going out and actually waiting and hunting for a girlfriend and then what if it all fails? hundreds of dollars, thousands can be lost with no success, so these days it really is how much money you have and if you have none your looks wont get you far at all, in fact even if you looked so called HOT, you may spend your months even years with not a single day with at least 6 to 24 months with out a single date. All this makes me sad, i had no date since late 2003 and its 2011 now!

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