Losing one’s virginity for the liberated, unconventional and open-minded individuals is never an issue at all. But for those who belong to the traditional, old fashioned, conservative, typical Filipino “maria clara”, the “probinsyana” and the pious, virginity is a BIG THING. (you might ask, hey miss blogger what’s your “V” status? If you dare! LOL! … I’ll just pm my answer.. hehheheh)
Well, looking on the Biblical side, virginity is a really sacred thing. It is not something to be tossed away anytime one pleases. Just as when sex outside of marriage is a no no. To engage into sex and lose one’s virginity without the benefit of holy matrimony is an issue each and every one of us must personally face and decide. Whether the driving force behind the idea of doing it is love or just lust of the flesh, the principles that we have and the belief that is rooted in us will steer us to whatever decision. I don’t mean to offend those who see no wrong with having sex and losing one’s virginity outside of marriage. As I said and am reiterating it again, it’s a personal choice.
I just wonder why having sex at the earliest, outside of marriage, is like a race for men, and eventually being dubbed as the “X-perienced”, the “NOT ANYMORE VIRGIN”, is the trophy. Losing one’s virginity appears to be the indicator of manhood. No hard censure, no eyebrows’ raised and no gossips and tittle-tattle. In short, it’s accepted. No license needed. It’s just justified. But when it is the women who get exposed of having lost their virginity outside the halls of marriage, it’s gonna be the bread and butter of every conversation, gossips, teasing, mockery, criticisms, harsh judgments. Women get tongued with censure. It’s like a disastrous, perfidious wrong.
Is this another discrimination against women that has not yet been totally addressed and exterminated? Hey, two different genders, commit the same mistake if it be so, yet each undergo different litigations and are adjudged differently? The same crime, the same constitutive elements, yet different sentence? Come on, this is horrible! Where’s the point? For those who are fond of judging books by its cover, come on Mr. Justice, be fair and square!
Some women who get snared in this thorny situation hope for a rewind button where they could just undo things after reaching the 7th heaven with a push of the button. But there ain’t no rewind button, only the jury of condemnatory eyes. Yes, at the end of the day, its guilt, anguish and the familiar regrets. Just like the famous line “Curiosity killed the cat”, curiosity can strip you of your virginity.
Anyways, the agony of harsh censure and reproach doesn’t end instantly. It doesn’t subside for a day or two, over a week, even years- like a bottomless pit, an infinite trench. While the X-perience is in the past and these scorned women try to move on with their lives and prowl for their MR. RIGHT and the much awaited “I do” vows, when walking down the aisle is just a stone’s throw away, this virginity issue will again pop up, resurface, like a dead now resurrected. It’s gonna stalk its victims by tail. What a sad plight for women!
Note: I wrote this article on my friendster blog and I just reposted this. ..
Well, looking on the Biblical side, virginity is a really sacred thing. It is not something to be tossed away anytime one pleases. Just as when sex outside of marriage is a no no. To engage into sex and lose one’s virginity without the benefit of holy matrimony is an issue each and every one of us must personally face and decide. Whether the driving force behind the idea of doing it is love or just lust of the flesh, the principles that we have and the belief that is rooted in us will steer us to whatever decision. I don’t mean to offend those who see no wrong with having sex and losing one’s virginity outside of marriage. As I said and am reiterating it again, it’s a personal choice.
I just wonder why having sex at the earliest, outside of marriage, is like a race for men, and eventually being dubbed as the “X-perienced”, the “NOT ANYMORE VIRGIN”, is the trophy. Losing one’s virginity appears to be the indicator of manhood. No hard censure, no eyebrows’ raised and no gossips and tittle-tattle. In short, it’s accepted. No license needed. It’s just justified. But when it is the women who get exposed of having lost their virginity outside the halls of marriage, it’s gonna be the bread and butter of every conversation, gossips, teasing, mockery, criticisms, harsh judgments. Women get tongued with censure. It’s like a disastrous, perfidious wrong.
Is this another discrimination against women that has not yet been totally addressed and exterminated? Hey, two different genders, commit the same mistake if it be so, yet each undergo different litigations and are adjudged differently? The same crime, the same constitutive elements, yet different sentence? Come on, this is horrible! Where’s the point? For those who are fond of judging books by its cover, come on Mr. Justice, be fair and square!
Some women who get snared in this thorny situation hope for a rewind button where they could just undo things after reaching the 7th heaven with a push of the button. But there ain’t no rewind button, only the jury of condemnatory eyes. Yes, at the end of the day, its guilt, anguish and the familiar regrets. Just like the famous line “Curiosity killed the cat”, curiosity can strip you of your virginity.
Anyways, the agony of harsh censure and reproach doesn’t end instantly. It doesn’t subside for a day or two, over a week, even years- like a bottomless pit, an infinite trench. While the X-perience is in the past and these scorned women try to move on with their lives and prowl for their MR. RIGHT and the much awaited “I do” vows, when walking down the aisle is just a stone’s throw away, this virginity issue will again pop up, resurface, like a dead now resurrected. It’s gonna stalk its victims by tail. What a sad plight for women!
Note: I wrote this article on my friendster blog and I just reposted this. ..
Indeed, LIFE has no rewind.. learn to play it RIGHT :)
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ReplyDeletethanks harizone..hehehe.. added you sa ym na...
nice article! nicely written. Points well addressed!
ReplyDeletehahhaah. i love your 7th heaven!!!
ReplyDelete@senior, yay, thanks.. you sure fatten a heart! lol..
ReplyDelete@anonymous, hahhaha.. do you where the 7th heaven is?
This is real.. but it's because the society does not see men and women on equal grounds. Most people still adhere to the idea that a woman must be virgin until she marries, but finds it acceptable for a man to be no longer virgin even prior to marriage.. This is not fair but it's hard to change how society thinks.
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